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Our first task will be to check if cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) will be helpful for you. This will include confirming what issues you want to deal with in the short, middle, and long-term. We can then work towards agreeing how your therapist will provide accountability for the changes in behavioural which we identify together in the course of our work.
Although CBT concentrates on the here and now - your present thoughts, feelings and behaviours, in parallel it may be helpful to explore those aspects of your life and background which can prompt, even unconsciously, the actions which are not helping you. This part of our work can bring you increased awareness and confidence to be yourself, and help you to counter feelings of guilt or anger about the past.
Talking is easier than taking action. However, together we can agree what actions can be changed and establish strategies that will reinforce your day-to-day practices that break the connection with what is damaging and provide the basis for accountability to your therapist.
Depending on the situation, will look for the “hot thought” that either lowers your power of resistance and/or causes you distress. We will then look to replace the “hot thought” with something one that strengthens your resistance. For example, replacing feelings of low self value in your own eyes or activities which threaten longer term physical and/or emotional damage with a more accurate assessment of who you are as a person or practical exercises to avoid what is harmful.
At each session we will discuss incidents since last time and how the exercises worked in the light of our work. Your therapist will offer feedback and suggestions if one of the tasks seems too difficult, or doesn’t seem to be working. During the work it is normal if, in spite of your best attempts, a harmful practice is not avoided. While this may add to a sense of guilt, these times are especially valuable as you consciously assess the results. The TED talk by font
5th February 2019
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